The writers just blather on and rattle off any old nonsense to fill time and space in interviews.
Confirmed then.

Vhanja wrote:

..... In all other instances throughout the series, I have had no trouble understand whenever John was frustrated and/or angry with Sherlock. I didn't even have a problem understanding his violence at the reunion.
But this I don't understand. I did believe something like this could happen - that John would blame Sherlock for the death of Mary or the baby, and that would lead to their estrangement. But I had assumed that if that happened, John would have a bigger reason for his anger (based on misunderstanding or not) than what we got here

Well, first of all, I presume it's just a major plot device. The writers are planning something BIG for the S/J relationship story thread. In other words, just like Jessica Rabbit, who wasn't bad, she was just drawn that way, John Watson isn't really an irrational nasty nut case in this scenario, he was just drawn that way to give us something interesting to talk about, something interesting to happen to Sherlock and perhaps a new twist to their highly unusual friendship that has yet to be revealed.

I'm not trying to minimize the importance of what happened, because OMG, what gives, right? And what was that sound John was making with his head bent over Mary's dead body? It was almost animal-like. Sheesh! Sherlock's face was a picture. I wanted to slap him and tell him to SAY SOMETHING--  after all, he'd have taken the bullet for Mary, if the tables had been turned, and John must know that, right? But she shoved him out of the way and sacrificed herself for him, but how was that Sherlock's fault and how did it have anything to do with that vow he made?

Great question, good basis for lots of discussion. Thanks for starting this thread.

Yeah, I didn't like that line from Moffat either, about Sherlock's lifestyle killing her. They all chose - with open eyes - to live that lifestyle, knowing fulling well the potential danger of it. 

However, he does go on to point out that of course it wasn't Sherlock's fault. 

I think I could've accepted the situation easier if John was there to see Sherlock riling her up. At least that would've have been a much more understandable reason for his anger than the vow. 

Yitzock wrote:

I agree, Pops, on both your points.  Also, I forgot to mention before: I really like the picture in your signature!

Thank you, that's my own creation ! 

I agree with ancientsgate about the note. I'm curious to see what's on it... If John really wanted Sherlock out of his life, he wouldn't give him a note. It's a contradiction ! Except if the note says "Don't come back in my life ever again !"...
 

Lis wrote:

............. John can't deal with both the pain of losing Mary and his guilt about his infidelity and about sending Mary there first at once so he is putting all of his guilt and anger at the situation onto the closet person to him, Sherlock. I think he will come to realise it was not Sherlock's fault.

I agree. It was just a big old gnarly ball of crap that rose up in John and made him act the way he did there at the death scene. Sherlock was made the whipping boy.  Which I think he's actually willing to be, for a time. But he seemed genuinely puzzled when he came back to the house, I don't know what length of time after the burial, and got rebuffed by a Molly who looked like she'd been through the wringer--  the poor girl looked like she hadn't bathed or eaten or slept in weeks, which makes one imagine what John was going through, or how much John hadn't actually been there.

I'm just hoping John's not hanging out with the bus girlfriend in his time of need. OMG....  I know, off subject, I will stop now with that nonsense, lol.
 

Marsha B wrote:

I'm more upset that John was cheating on Mary. Something I didn't expect from him but perhaps it's some pent up passive/aggressive issue about how she deceived him in the beginning. A lot of psychological issues going on here for everyone. 

yes, lots going on. I was dismayed by the girlfriend too. What in the world did she offer that John thought he needed?  I didn't see a physical affair, though, am I just being naive? I thought they were just text-flirting, no?

But either, yeah, John should feel guilty. One more facet of what led to his rage with Mary's death.
 

Vhanja wrote:

I also find it interesting that none of this makes Sherlock angry. He just looks sad. If someone accused me of something like that, I would've been furious (born out of hurt). 

Lestrade was there, though, he saw it all. I do hope he will pay John a visit, give ham a smack at the back of his head and tell him to get a grip.

I love Lestrade. Love, love, love. I hope they make more use of his character and mending S'J's rift would be super cool.

Mothonthemantel wrote:

.........Perhaps John feels he now must put the baby first...........

Except John didn't seem to be there for the baby. We saw him briefly wandering the cemetery, and then at his house, Molly had obviously been left tending the baby and John was ???? where? bb doesn't want me to say he might be at the bus girlfriend's, lol....  I hope not, too.
 

Did you see Sherlock's hand trying to touch John's shoulder to comfort him after Mary's death? Then was when John screamed at him so violently. "Don't you dare [to touch me]!". Poor Sherlock. First time he tries to comfort someone. 

I though that was from him recently taking quite the beating by the hands of her former colleague. He does sport a black eye on the next day when he talks to Mycroft...