Yes and of course it is just speculation at the moment.
Shame it's always the Daily Mail...
Yet they have been right evey time so far.
Deliberate leaks?
We know they're going to marry, when and where is irrelevant to me.
Though I do have to laugh at the traditional thing...I guess it is quite traditional to walk up the aisle pregnant!

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Aw...

Those two together just makes me so happy! 

Vhanja wrote:

ancientsgate wrote:

Harriet wrote:

Sorry but this concept of "honour" makes me as a woman kind of sick.

Not me. At least here in the US, marriage protects the woman, legally and financially. And I don't think the idea of honor is old-fashioned. It  might be an ancient idea, but sometimes ancient things, the things that last, are the best. Hey, I'm an ancient thing, I ought to know!  heh
 

This sentence makes me into a blood red feminist. But I guess that is because I come from Norway, where women can fend for themselves legally and financially, and it's been decades since they needed a man and a marriage to do that for them. Just the very idea of such a thing makes me ill. 
 

I suppose the sex doesn't matter so much - but what marriage does address (in the UK) is the financial imbalance if a couple split up.    Often one partner (traditionally, it usually has been a woman, here in the UK, but not always) has taken some financial loss by giving up work to contribute to the household in other ways. It can be a substantial financial loss to give up work to provide childcare, to avoid promotions because they don't fit in with the other partners job, to give up a career to be with them, etc.).   I believe marriage still gives some protection for that person.  Cohabiting couples have no protection at all.

I don't think there is much other financial benefit from marriage, though, and no legal need to do it to have children any more.  Oddly enough, the most compelling legal/financial reason to get married seems to be forward planning for divorce!   And maybe it's kind of romantic, that by marrying, people are saying "I'm prepared to always support you financially, even if we're no longer together".

besleybean wrote:

Wow, I don't think anything financial is romantic in any way at all...

But it can be. As the two partners work hard, take care of business, save some of what they earn, provide for any children, etc., well....  that's all part of an established relationship. Seems to me, a lack of financial provision on one or both of the partners' parts would be a distinct wet blanket on any "romance".

Ben strikes me as just old-fashioned enough that he'd deeply care about standing up tall for his partner, doing the right thing, supporting her in every way, and yes, that includes financially. And IMO it'd be nice if she'd do the same for him. None of our business of course. Again, it's all speculation, until either of them decides to speak about it publicly.
 

On the contrary, I think she is averse to the institution...one of the things I like best about her.
She would have a stronger claim on the kids anyway...
Men do suffer, you are right...
But I'm not sure being married helps this.
Courts generally rule in favour of mothers.

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kittykat wrote:

I'm really happy for both of them. I mean, we love Ben and want him to be happy. So if Sophie makes him happy then it's all good ^^

^^^^
Ditto to what kittykat said!

Can't improve on that comment at all.

-Val
 

Ivy wrote:

She's definitely a smart cookie, maybe even more than Ben.

I like the summary of "Entertainment weekly" to the engagement:

http://news-briefs.ew.com/2014/11/05/benedict-cumberbatch-to-be-married/

 
"Tumblr boyfriend" though? What exactly does that mean?

Also perhaps it turns things around - quite often Benedict's achievements are praised and hers are forgotten 

I only scanned half of it, and this women seems to be in need of medical help. I am not joking, she needs to be instituionalized for her own good (and others). She writes, and sounds, like a raving lunatic.