That they don't like each other is a bit exaggerated I suppose. After all Martin usually said in interviews that they are friendly with each other and when seeing them together on set or during Sherlock premiers they behave nice to each other as well. But yes, I also think that they have very different personalities and not much in common. I can also imagine that all the fuss around Benedict about the fans which is overinflated by the press but a strain on their relationship as well.
And about Amanda not congratulating. What would be the point? Benedict is not on Twitter and as far as I know none of the other cast and crew members tweeted any congratulations as well. I am sure, she and Martin wish them luck and congratulated in an other appropriate way.

P.S.: Cross-posted. Hadn't seen your comment Kerkerian. But fully agree 

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Kerkerian wrote:

JenHart wrote:

Tinks wrote:

I have to say, it was obvious that the story about Martin being best man was rubbish; you can tell from Amanda's tweets that they are not close to Ben at all; even when she made it known that the story was untrue, she didn't wish any happiness or congrats to the couple - just pointed out that the idea of MF being his best man was making her laugh!
Anyway, that aside, I wish them, as I'd wish all newlyweds, a long and happy life together.

 
I'm surprised she didn't at least congratulate them, after all, they have met, and Martin and Ben have filmed together for some years.

Just because Amanda didn't do it via twitter (and why should she, since Ben isn't even on it), it doesn't necessarily mean that she and Martin didn't congratulate them. They may not be close friends, but they'll have each other's contact info.

 
It's true that they could congratulate him privately - for me though, there's just something about AA's behaviour on Twitter where BC is concerned; she could simply have stated that MF wasn't Best Man but she "laughed" at the very idea of it - as though the very notion he'd be a Best Man to BC was ridiculous; she's intelligent - even when further questioned she still didn't qualify her comment by wishing him all the best, and she'll know what some will take from that.
He's not on twitter, it's true, but it doesn't mean she couldn't have said something nice.
On his Oscar nomination, for instance, other colleagues tweeted their congrats - the only comment AA made was to say that no, the cast wouldn't be taking time out from filming to watch the nominations come in.
Anyway, my apologies for dragging the thread off topic, and I hope I don't come over as too  cynical about this; it's just an interpretation I have of this particular situation.

Harriet wrote:

Well, she makes jokes about him on Twitter, so she might as well congratulate him on Twitter, esp when she mentions his wedding.

This is just speculation, of course, because I don't know her personally, but from what I've seen and read of her so far, Amanda seems to be a pretty straightforward person who is confident enough not to feel the need to cater to people's ideas of her. Maybe, apart from what I said before, she simply doesn't feel compelled to congratulate BC on twitter just because the fans are expecting it of her.
(Incidentally, have a look at her twitter today- people are overreacting again, as usual, and two hours ago she wrote "Ben is my friend" in the context of a tweet. Gosh, I wonder why she puts up with it at all.)
 

If she couldn´t say anything nice and congratulate the couple, she could very well avoid the topic alltogether, IMHO. 

nakahara wrote:

If she couldn´t say anything nice and congratulate the couple, she could very well avoid the topic alltogether, IMHO. 

The term Freedom of Speech comes to mind... maybe she wasn't aware that apparently it became compulsory to congratulate someone just because she mentioned them after people have been bugging her about it...
 

Firstly: an apology - I'm cranky this morning and I'm painfully aware that I'm commenting on things that I'd usually stay silent on.
Secondly: I'm only stating my personal opinion and I'm fully aware and accept that others can and probably will disagree with me.
I'm saying this because I don't, as a rule, carry on with a debate for too long because I like and respect everyone on here and don't want to appear to be "arguing" with anyone.


But I feel that Amanda knows, by now, how people react to certain things and it's very easy to stop these over reactions occurring or at least to put a stop to them as soon as they start by clarifying matters.
She always seems to choose not to.

Which of course is a choice she's fully entitled to make.

Sigh. The drama! I'm off now, this isn't leading anywhere.

Thanks for posting the Dench link, nakahara. I couldn't find it anywhere 

Y'all do realize that even if Martin had been invited to the wedding--and with a guest list of under 40, he and Amanda almost certainly wouldn't have been, not being "oldest and dearest" friends--he couldn't have come, since they just started shooting the Taliban Shuffle film.

There has been an official announcement from Ben's PA spokesperson, Karon Maskill, on his marriage confirming that they had wed this past weekend, surrounded by family and close friends. She described it as a "magical day".

-Val

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