SusiGo wrote:

And when have we ever seen Mary give in to John's needs? For honesty, for example? 
 

Two things come to mind:

- Getting him and Sherlock to start working again
- Stepping away and giving him the peace he needed until he was ready to approach her, even while she was pregnant and it took several months

SusiGo: See what? She is the one who pushes Sherlock and John to go on a case each other, because they both want it and Sherlock is scared they won't be able to do that anymore. That is the opposite of being selfish, as that would mean John would spend less time with her.

And as she states "Months of silence and now this?" seems to me they haven't spoken to each other for several months.

What it also boils down to for me is that John decided to marry her and be with her. John has been around the block a few times, I don't think he is the kind of guy who would stay in a bad relationship. If John is happpy with her, then he is.

Thing is: With Sarah there isn't a doubt that she didn't have some sort of hidden agenda. She certainly meant everything she said.
With Mary... not so much. At this point I have no idea which of her actions and words were real and which weren't. She is a liar, Mary Morstan is not even her real name, and right now I basically don't believe fu** when it comes to her. I hope this will change asap during the Special, because just like Sherlock I hate not knowing. But to me everything about her could very well just be part of her facade, of a plan, of a hidden agenda - and I'm not saying it has to be her hidden agenda, I'm just saying that I don't know and I don't trust her.

As I see it, everything we have seen with Mary is her true personality. Only thing she has done was hide her past from John, I don't see har has having changed her personality for him.

tykobrian wrote:

Guys, when Sherlock said in HLV Mary acquired the name Mary Morstan what did he mean? Like did she somehow legally change her name to Morstan and made new papers like drivers license and such? How easy is it to do so? I suppose it was easier when she was supposedly a government intelligence officer because the they'd arrange that for her. But as a freelance assasin can she do that so easily, completely change her identy? I really have no practical knowledge in these matters. Love to hear what are the ways in your respective countries. This thing popped in my mind when one of my friends told me that if during the registration process of John and Mary's wedding it's revealed that Mary Morstan is an alias their marriage woul've been void. So I guess Mary didn't half-ass her identity change?

It's very easy to change your name in the UK, but I think they meant that Mary had created a whole false identity, using a deceased baby's details.  She would have a genuine birth certificate and could fake everything else (or pay somebody to do it for her). 

Or someone doing it illegally. Again, both ways are possible.

I thought they just meant she got it from the deaths column of a newspaper

Tee Hee.

She would probably also need someone professional to manipulate the official records of baby Mary´s death, or else she wouldn´t get access to the health care system, tax system and so on just with her (faked) birth certificate..

Or Mycroft … (not my preferred theory but there is something strange about those two)