KeepersPrice wrote:

Let me chime in here too.  I said to Harriet yesterday that it doesn't make any kind of realistic sense for any of us to be sad or depressed that Ben is now "off the market".  None of us had any kind of shot with him, obviously; but I guess there is a certain amount of fantasy and a feeling that somehow we'd like him to belong exclusively to "us" and not to someone else.  Again, it makes no sense, and even though we are expressing happiness for him, I think deep down, in the very secret places of the heart, there is sadness for some of us that he is now with someone else and no longer "available".

Something else - I was reading somewhere on line where fans were discussing how poorly his ex-girlfriend, Olivia Poulet, had treated his fans and that they felt Sophie Hunter would be much kinder, and in no way shape or form mean to the fans.  I don't remember hearing anything about Olivia treating fans badly but this could have been a bit before my time following Ben/Sherlock stuff on line.  Does anyone know this story?

 
Very true.  (and also very late to the 'party'!!)  It's the wishing you could be with someone like him, even if, as Sherloh just said, you know you might not be able to keep up with him (or like the lifestyle).  And maybe the 'perceived' availability they're also worried over?  He's already so busy, it's just life that he might not doing as many events where those fans could meet, or projects to see him in, with balancing family/wife time.  Just thoughtful speculation, of course.  And never heard anything of Olivia either (but also didn't follow them much at the time)… no idea what that's about?  Always great to have a partner that has your back, yet doesn't feel the need to fend fans off with a stick or snark about them.  She seems lovely… so happy for both of them!

She's definitely a smart cookie, maybe even more than Ben.

I like the summary of "Entertainment weekly" to the engagement:

http://news-briefs.ew.com/2014/11/05/benedict-cumberbatch-to-be-married/

And her wiki:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophie_Hunter

They know each other before they fall in love that's a good thing I think. It's not that "falling in love at first sight" (in my view totally overrated, and it's usually lust not love at first sight isn't it?!)

Solar, sorry if I offended you. I just meant how can you fall in love by just seeing someone, you can be attracted to him/her. Maybe I should have said I believe in love at the first talk, for me love is a bit more than just looks and what do you know about someone when you just see him, love is such a big word I think. I had several moments where I find someone sexy or cute and the moment he opened his mouth or I get to know is attitude the excitement was over.
And I also had one boyfriend with whom I was friends for years before I fell in love with him.

If you fell in love at first sight then I'm happy for you, it's just not my experience. I didn't want to talk it down, it's just my opinion.

What I actually wanted to say is, that he already knew he without being in love with her. And therefore they might know each others negative traits and know with whom they get involved with. Maybe that's why the engagement is relatively fast, no surprises.


 

I had two relationships starting with love at first sight. Both were straw fires, quite quickly burned down.
(Both times at first on HIS side  )
Hubby and me needed more time as everything started with friendship. Changed slowly into love. Stayed like that until today. Which is great. But I still won't say that one way is better than the other. Butterflies and blackout at the beginning is a great feeling, too. 

nakahara wrote:

Zatoichi wrote:

gently69 wrote:

LOL ... some misunderstanding ...

http://robertshammer.tumblr.com/post/101881047004/what-a-time-to-be-alive

Turner, Hunter, who cares.. 

Imagine the initial surprise of this lady, through.
"What - I got engaged with Benedict Cumberbatch? When did it happen? Was I drunk last night or what?"
 

 
So funny!

I do think that there is such a thing as love at first sight but also that love is a many splendored thing. I think it is not actually one 'thing'. There are so many types of love and even within 'romantic love' there is a spectrum of feelings. Anyhow, on the other point. To believe friendship is an excellent way to start a relationship. At the end of the day we want to be able to like the person we are with. Liking is, in my humble opinion, very underestimated.

Gorgeous!   

They make such a lovely couple. Reading about the engagement made me all sentimental - I'm so happy for him!

That's one piece of Benedict's work I haven't seen and maybe I should now.
They obviously enjoyed working together, maybe became friends and possibly there was even a mutual attraction there.
The official line is that they were both seeing other people at the time.
Now I don't know when Sophie's relationship broke up...
But Benedict didn't exactly rush to her as soon as he was single...
Until I hear the official account:
I assume they did literally bump back into each over last Xmas/New Year...

Last edited by besleybean (November 8, 2014 8:30 am)

They are lovely. I just wish for a couple of pictures now where Sophie looks a bit more happy and smiles.