so here I am, damned forever. 

Harriet wrote:

But even you have to admit that he displays a great commitment for the cause as well as humour and creativity and courage, don't you?

Of course, Harriet, of course. Who would dare deny it? I'm sure he's not just a brilliant, brilliant actor but also a wonderful person. I particularly like the way he seems so grounded, you know, no scandals, not seeking media attention all the time, not publicly smooching a different female celeb every week and all the stuff lots of other stars do.

I just don't seem to swoon for and obsess over actors (meaning the real life persons). As opposed to characters! Benedict-as-Sherlock floors me with his hotness practically every time he comes on screen. Benedict-as-Benedict doesn't. Weird!


About looking his age (or not), I agree that it changes a lot, both over the course of the series (which is natural, as well as consistent with Sherlock maturing) and within the series, even within one and the same episode. The scenes with Mycroft and/or his parents are particularly striking that way. He really does look younger in those. Is it just technical wizardry (make-up, lighting etc.)? But if not, how does he do it?!

Anyway I think I just got confused because I used to have somewhat maternal feelings for Sherlock, but then I went and looked up Benedict's age and realised he's actually a year OLDER than I am, which suprised me mightily.

Last edited by La Jolie (August 24, 2014 8:40 pm)

I´ve heard "nasty" and stopped reading  but seriously - I agree. and I deeply admit his skills in acting. I will probably never find out his what kind of person he is, but - nevermind how young I am - I cam admire him in movies, and I want to thank him for that.  

La Jolie wrote:

Of course, Harriet, of course. Who would dare deny it? I'm sure he's not just a brilliant, brilliant actor but also a wonderful person. I particularly like the way he seems so grounded, you know, no scandals, not seeking media attention all the time, not publicly smooching a different female celeb every week and all the stuff lots of other stars do.

I just don't seem to swoon for and obsess over actors (meaning the real life persons). As opposed to characters! Benedict-as-Sherlock floors me with his hotness practically every time he comes on screen. Benedict-as-Benedict doesn't. Weird!

For all we know, yes. Intelligent, educated and warm 

Not so weird. I first got Sherlocked myself and then learnt to really enjoy Benedict's appearance.
Probably it wouldn't have worked for me the other way round 



 

same as I am twice ^^

I totally agree. His acting skills are unbelievable brilliant. For me it is impossible not to fall in love with the person behind the characters.
There certainly are a few actors who I am also admiring because of their acting skills but none of them has the whole package. (You know ... Solar  )

Last edited by gently69 (August 25, 2014 5:00 am)

Well, I definitely have a crush on Benedict - but I would never want to read fanfiction about him. Ugh! 

I was merely responding to Liberty, because she mentioned that she read one. I just wanted to make clear that having a crush on an actual living person doesn't mean that you would want to read fanfic about him. I have my own fantasies. 

And in Benedict's case, he's courting it, to some extent.  The ice bucket challenge seemed to involve a bit of knowing flirting with the fans (which I appreciate).  

I'd like to say that I don't fantasise about actors because I respect them and don't want to objectify them, but I don't think that's true of me.  Right from when I was very young I remember going to see a film with a star I liked, and completely falling for the character in the film instead of the actor (even though the character was a bit of a cad).  I can find the actor very attractive (I did watch the ice bucket video several times), but fantasise about the character.  I'm not sure why that is.  Maybe it's just because the actor is real, and I don't tend to go for real guys who I think are out of my league (and I'm not putting myself down if I say the world's sexiest movie star might come into that category).  In real life, when I've known extremely attractive men, I think I automatically put barriers up because I don't fall for them.  I just like to admire their beauty. 

Edit: Or, I just thought, maybe it's because the characters are more interesting - you get to know them intimately in a way that you don't really know a famous person.  I don't think I'd fall for a character who just walked on to look pretty.  Because part of fantasy is story, and with the characters you have their story right there, with all the emotions and motives and stuff.  And story/drama seems to be tied in with romance/sex for me. 

Real person fanfiction - I did read one, as I said, even if it was by accident (no really, it was.  I was looking for something else), and it wasn't as bad as I would have thought.   I think it's impolite, maybe?  But I'm not shocked by it - I get the idea that it's almost about fantasy versions of the real people rather than the real people themselves. I should probably feel more outraged than I do.   But I agree that it must require public figures to have a certain strength of character to distance themselves from all that, and not let it impinge on who they are.  I can't imagine what it must be like. 

Last edited by Liberty (August 25, 2014 11:11 am)

I've had celebrity crushes since I was old enough to know what a celebrity is.  Some bigger than others but all of them have brought me a lot of pleasure.  Fantasy is fun.  As long as it doesn't interfere with your real life relationships I say just enjoy. 

I've had fantisies about Sherlock (not real) and Benedict (never gonna happen).  I've also had crushes on people I work with.  But these are things I keep for myself.  Not to be acted on.  Fantasy crushes can be positive things.