Why Mary is a bully and why her conduct in TAB takes a cake:

http://silentauroriamthereal.tumblr.com/post/136507424810/mary-likes-to-embarrass-people

Have you read the meta that nakahara linked?
 

She's not shown to be a risk.  We're shown clear reasons why Sherlock is a risk to her in a certain moment, and why she shoots him (not justifying it, just saying that her reason is explained quite clearly, I think).  There's no indication that she'd want to harm Sherlock at any other time.  She's a skilled assassin who has had close access to Sherlock for a long time, and yet she has made no attempt on his life outside of the incident which is explained.    Are we really meant to think that Sherlock, John and Mycroft are just waiting for Mary to kill Sherlock?   I honestly don't think so.  I think we're been shown fairly clearly that they don't see her as a risk. 

Mary also has no reason to want to kill Sherlock.  She's very much in debt to him now. 

I had a quick look at the meta.  I don't think any of us think of Mary as "cute and lovable", thank goodness.   But to say that she's bullying Sherlock by "revealing" that he looked at John's blog - I don't think so at all. 

besleybean wrote:

No and I'm not going to.
I'll see what the show gives us, thank you.

Oh, I just thought you did since you replied to nakahara's post. 

Well, I prefer to look at what the show gives me as well. It is my main source of interpretation. This is also why I do not pay too much attention to the commentaries. 

And sometimes they even lie. 

Like when they said the special would be in a bubble of its own, having no connection with series 3/4. Or when they said that there would be no drug references apart from cigarettes or that Sherlock's past was not important. 

Actually, I do remember various hints that the special would link in to the present day series.  I heard but didn't listen, presumably. 

Well Mycroft doesn't seem to demand any gratitude form Mary the way he does from Sherlock.

Interesting indeed.

Mycroft has been played by Irene (with help from Moriarty) in the past.
As Mary has been around much longer, and has been trained (presumably) by the CIA or something similar, I don't think it'd be too far-fetched to assume he's being played by Mary.

Liberty wrote:

Nakahara, you don't think she has a motive in HLV, but the episode does present us with one (whether or not we think it's justified is a different issue altogether - and if she didn't have a motive, then why would she do it?).  The things Mary was afraid of were that John would find out and that Magnussen would have her killed.  Neither of those are a risk to her now.  Magnussen is dead, John has forgiven her.   Why would she randomly kill Sherlock now?  Of course there might be other stuff in her past - and her future - which might lead her to doing something unpredictable.   But on the information we've been given, she's not a current risk. 

Liberty, do you really think that Mycroft accepts Mary´s motives for killing Sherlock we were given in HLV?
Like, he is allright that his brother nearly died at Mary´s hand because she was so in love with John and she wanted to keep her past secret from him?
That would mean that Mycroft´s love to his brother is somewhat inferior and less valuable than Mary´s love to John.
Do you really believe that?
Where does the myth of Mycroft being fiercely protective of Sherlock has been born then?

The way I see the scene - Mycroft may be aware that Mary is a secret agent. But he in no way knows Mary is also the person who shot Sherlock. That is inconceivable, IMHO.

Liberty wrote:

The scene I'm talking about is in the plane.  Mycroft clearly knows about Mary, yet has been happy for her to be around Sherlock.   There's nothing in that scene telling me that they think she's a risk to him. 

Mycroft doesn´t seem especially happy that a foreign agent hacked MI5, but he has other concerns in that scene and so he passes that with silence.
Still, in no moment does he seem particularily happy to me.
But your mileage can vary, of course.