Mattlocked wrote:

But why, if I can have double pleasure?

There are also perks to living with other people, but being able to watch Benedict Cumberbatch nearly trip over his pants and then get into a shower over and over and over and over again without anyone judging is definitely a point in favour of living alone.

Mary

Lovely discussion, ladies. Totally off topic but lovely. 

*smiley crying with laughter*

Thanks, dear. 

And tomorrow we will return to our serious discussions.

Yes, he outdid himself. Six buckets. Stripping down. Looking gorgeous in that suit. Wow. 

Well, this isn't really "back to serious discussion", is it? 

I think I will have to watch it again. I am very keen on motorbikes, you know. 

After all the happiness I am trying to steer this thread back on topic. I just found this post by SilentAuror, a prolific and well-known fanfic writer. I post it here in full because I cannot link it. This is her tumblr: http://silentauroriamthereal.tumblr.com/. I think she expresses quite well what this thread is about and what it is not:

Being frustrated with someone, fictional or otherwise, does not in any way equate to hate. I just want to say that, for the record. Thinking of a character as a villain does not equate to hate. Thinking that a character made a terrible choice does not equate to hate. I think this is a mistake that people make in their daily lives all the time, as well as in fandom. Anger = lack of love in any way. In fact, the presence of anger is often suggestive of the presence of love. I don’t know how many times people have mistaken thinking of Mary Morstan as a villain as hate for the character, or the woman who plays her. I just got accused to hating John Watson for being frustrated with his actions in series 3. I remember tearfully asking my mother, as a child, if she still loved me after I’d done something wrong, and her appalled response (of “of course I do!!”) I find this particularly aggravating in fandom, though. Just saying. I’m about to make a post about some of the bees in my bonnet regarding John, so may I just state for the record that I love John, flaws and all. I think that he and Sherlock were made for each other. I also see them both as inherently flawed and mistaken people, but that in no way changes my firm belief that they belong together. Just saying. 

Last edited by SusiGo (August 23, 2014 10:04 pm)

Amen and pass the biscuits.

Here is another tumblr post about this subject - a bit more radical but nonetheless true.

http://dammit-sherlock.tumblr.com/post/83104642508/mary-morstan-and-the-fandom-its-a-love-hate-thing