Yes. And losing John to Mary makes him unhappy although he does not show it to John.

I absolutely believe that Sherlock is in love with John. And I think he definitely needs all the hugging from John he can get to be really happy. And because he is so good at not showing this to John, John doesn't get it - and probably lots of members of the audience don't get it, either.
But that's totally okay.

I'd never use a word like 'idiots'...

Since John is willing to give up his life for Sherlock, I think he loves him as much as the human heart is capable of. He doesn't say he loves Mary more than Sherlock, so his feelings are comparable to being in love with him, or at least of the same magnitude. 
As for Sherlock, although he didn't suicide faceplant on the sidewalk for him, he did do that come back to life thing because he thought John was in danger. John often tends to be his exclusive emotional on switch, as noted by magnuessen. I don't know how much he loves him but he definately exhibits exceptional and uncharacteristic behavior when John is involved. Also did he say he loved John during the wedding?
I like how their love is somewhat understated because John is pretty reserved and Sherlock likes to pretend he's a sociopath. It kind of becomes the elephant in the room.
It seems to me Sherlock actually approves of Mary. Maybe his love for John is selfless enough to accept her as John's partner? Sexual relationships are possessive, but without the sex, maybe it's ok for them to see other people? hmm..

Last edited by Lue4028 (April 15, 2014 11:51 pm)

Hmph. As though John and Sherlock's relationship isn't real. >_>

Kaye, do you realise that Sherlock is only uncomfortable when a) women talk to him about sex or b) the subject comes up in connection with women? 
He never ever seems embarrassed when people think that he and John are a couple. He remains totally cool when "Jim from IT" slips him his phone number. He never corrects Mrs Hudson or even Kitty Riley - and that from the man who would outlive God to have the last word. 

And how do we know that Moffat et al will not let him become a sexual person? It is possible but not a fact. We can never know what they are going to come up with next which makes the show so exciting. 

lol SusiGo, I think you just supported the argument Sherlock is straight not gay. DX If women elicit a response and men don't...
@Kaye  We can't say for sure based on the those small inferences- both the creator and the actor think he isn't a virgin.

To put it shortly.. Sherlock is above sex. imo. Dangerous isn't the word I'd use. Talking about it makes him feel awkward, but he's actually mastered sexuality, unlike the majority of people who walk around enslaved. He can control sexuality, while others are controled by it. He puts sexuality down to do his job. I respect that. He is the triumph of rationality over sexuality. If you find that frustrating then you can't fully appreciate him, I suppose.

I don't feel sorry for Molly at all. That last thing I'd expect of Sherlock would be for him to return her feelings. It wouldn't be fair to Sherlock; Sherlock is who he is, cold, cruel, unavailable. He has been nice to her on occasion, and it cost him some sociopath points, so if I were her, I'd be grateful.

God, from what you're describing, I sure hope they stick to cannon. Sherlock is inherently romantic and intellectual. You can't fast forward to bed scenes with him. gah. I didn't buy that Janine crap for a second cuz it was so out of character..

Moffat:
Probably isn’t a virgin. I can’t imagine that man as a virgin. Something happened, somewhere. I think Sherlock would have to, somewhere. He’s a man with a past.
http://thinkprogress.org/alyssa/2012/05/07/479306/steven-moffat-on-sherlocks-return-the-holmes-watson-love-story-and-updating-the-first-supervillain/
 

Last edited by Lue4028 (April 16, 2014 4:12 am)

Lue4028 wrote:

You can't fast forward to bed scenes with him..

I suppose you mean that figuratively, because as far as I remember nobody here was talking about fast forwarding him to bed (with John or whomever else)...?
I agree, I didn't buy the whole "I'm in a relationship with Janine"-thing for a second, either. It came out of nowhere and it wasn't like Sherlock at all. It just wouldn't have been believable and a bad joke. But if  we look at his relationship with John, if we look at what they've been through together, if we look at Sherlock's reaction to John proposing to him in TSoT (yes, that to me was the real proposal in S3, John didn't propose to Mary, he proposed to Sherlock)... that's a completely different story.
 

I just like seeing the words Sex and Sherlock (and pants) in the same sentance.

*crawls back to corner*

Well said, tonnaree …