OK, so I won´t do it in the future. I was only reacting on the post of another member anyway.

(P.S. It would be a big help if those unspoken rules would be listed somewhere. It is a stupid feeling that one makes some strange transgression every time one posts an opinion about something).

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nakahara wrote:

(P.S. It would be a big help if those unspoken rules would be listed somewhere. It is a stupid feeling that one makes some strange transgression every time one posts an opinion about something).

If I got a pound every time I felt like that on this board, I would've been rich by now. 

My thoughts exactly. Like you said, Susi, we discuss so many topics, topics concerning the show or just films, books, other tv shows... and we mention aspects we don't like all the time, I don't see the problem at all as long as people don't just say "It's stupid!" but explain why they feel the way they feel about something. And of course, in a respectful manner.

And the lemon is in play.

I'm just glad there's a warning for adult content coming with the thread title...

SusiGo wrote:

We can discuss everything as long as it happens in a respectful and polite way. I do not see any breach of this in the current discussion. It happens to everyone that they like something which others dislike and the other way round. As long as we do not attack each other but discuss a fic in a matter of fact way I see no problem. 

I'm not sure why we're discussing any fics at such length on this thread. This is a johnlock fic rec thread, not a discussion thread--  don't we have one of those elsewhere?
 

I think I have made myself clear. Do we really need rules for every eventuality? Not in my opinion. Please ask the boss. I am at my wit's end by now.

Brilliant idea. Please close your eyes or turn away, everyone. 

And may I please refer all members interested in discussing rules to this thread? 

http://sherlock.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=4706

Can I just say why I've always liked this forum so much? Because this is not one of those forums where a mod comes jumping around the corner as soon as members write three off-topic posts in a row. I know such forums, they're what I call "übermoderiert" - over-moderated. Yes, everything goes by the book (and by the rules) there, but please don't ask me about the amount of fun you tend to have there, thank you very much.

Guys, discussion of fic is perfectly okay. It seems to me that Person A read X into a fic and Person B didn't agree with that interpretation. This has become an issue where there was none.

If I rec a fic and say "I like it because..." and someone else goes "Oh I read that and didn't like it because..." that's useful information for someone else to decide whether they want to read it.

Dubcon is often a subjective topic. If someone reads a fic and sees dubcon, that's useful information for someone who is sensitive to, or simply does not enjoy, dubcon in fic.

Please don't instruct each other what they can and cannot discuss in a thread. This thread is largely for recs, yes, but it's also for discussing those recs. That's why the Masterlists were created - so that you could easily find the recs without all the chatter in between.

I am with Susi and the other mods that this forum does not need rules. It simply needs participants to show maturity with each other.

This statement was inflammatory and unnecessary:

Well, I read it very differently. And as I mentioned, what you read into it was not the author's intent. 

I don't see why it's something to discuss or be upset about, to be honest. It's just a fic. If you don't like it, don't give it kudos and move on to some other fic instead. I've read many fics I don't like, even stopped in the middle of a few of them not even able to finish them. But I've not come here to the board to dis a fic just because I don't like it.

Here's why:
1) Sometimes people read things in fic that were not the author's intent. That does not in any way alter the way the reader perceived it. Communication is a living, two-way thing.
2) It's something to discuss or be upset about, if you are upset about it and wish to discuss it.
3) Expressing a negative opinion regarding your interpretation of a fic is not "dissing a fic". It is opening the discussion to further views.

A more appropriate response might have been:
"I didn't read that into the fic, and I don't think that's what the author intended. What I enjoyed about the fic was [this, this and this]. I guess if you don't enjoy that then this isn't the fic for you. Have you read this one [rec]?"

What makes this forum enjoyable for most is that we do have adult, mature discussions about things we care about but which we might have differing, or even opposing, views on. For those discussions to happen, though, we all need to be willing to accept the views of others that might be different from our own.

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