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July 12, 2016 1:24 pm  #1


Forum Survey - Relationships

Hi!  Some of you may recall a conversation a few weeks ago where I said I thought it would be interesting to do some gender and sexuality surveys here in our forum. So I thought, why not.  Not wanting to get into anyone's business, all answers are anonymous, but I am interested in the make up of our little community here.

Please feel free to comment on results. 

Now - Relationship status
 


What sort of relationship are you currently in?












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July 12, 2016 1:59 pm  #2


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I just realised I answered all these while I was not logged in, oops. Anyway, I clicked "married".


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July 12, 2016 2:12 pm  #3


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I always forget how many people on this forum are married.  I am single.



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July 12, 2016 2:16 pm  #4


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In a monogamous relationship... well, long distance. 


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July 12, 2016 2:23 pm  #5


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Monogamous live-in relationship for 12 year this October. On internation/English-speaking forums I just call him "hubbie", because it's simpler. We're not married, but I don't feel comfortable nearing my fourties and calling my partner through 12 years for "boyfriend". 


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July 12, 2016 2:25 pm  #6


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That is understandable, Vhanja! It sounds like you have surpassed that term.

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July 12, 2016 2:28 pm  #7


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Been with hubby since fall of 2000 and married since 2002.  I'm pretty sure I'm going to keep him.


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July 12, 2016 2:36 pm  #8


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We're a month short of 2 years together 


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July 12, 2016 3:13 pm  #9


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Married nearly 30 years...my poor hubby.


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July 12, 2016 5:13 pm  #10


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Vhanja wrote:

Monogamous live-in relationship for 12 year this October. On internation/English-speaking forums I just call him "hubbie", because it's simpler. We're not married, but I don't feel comfortable nearing my fourties and calling my partner through 12 years for "boyfriend". 

Ha ha!  I know, it feels like another word is needed as we get older!  There's "partner" of course, if that applies.    But for somebody you are dating, there isn't really a word.  I have heard "man friend", but it sounds comical to me!

 

July 12, 2016 5:16 pm  #11


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Yeah that could just sound like a male friend to me, you know: Sherlock and John are man friends...well actually no it wouldn't work so much for me there, would have to be opposite sex.
Sherlock is Mary's man friend.
I think I would tend to use partner, unless people think you are business partners...but then I would specify business partners.


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July 12, 2016 8:16 pm  #12


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I suppose "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" might not seem mature enough for some. What about datemate? Probably also...Life partner sounds a bit dramatic, though I think I've heard it before.



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July 12, 2016 8:18 pm  #13


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It's quite nice...'life partner'.


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July 12, 2016 9:03 pm  #14


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Vhanja wrote:

Monogamous live-in relationship for 12 year this October. On internation/English-speaking forums I just call him "hubbie", because it's simpler. We're not married, but I don't feel comfortable nearing my fourties and calling my partner through 12 years for "boyfriend". 

You are right sounds like teenagers.

In German we have the problem that boyfriend = Freund but Freund means friend as well. And Lebensgefährte (lit. life companion/life partner) sounds stiff and bureaucratic and pretty unsexy.
I know a lot of people who say mein Mann although they aren't married, it's simpler.
 


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July 12, 2016 9:06 pm  #15


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And at the end of the day, a marriage license isn't necessary.


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July 12, 2016 9:39 pm  #16


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besleybean wrote:

And at the end of the day, a marriage license isn't necessary.

That's up to the individual people really.


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"Anyone who takes himself too seriously always runs the risk of looking ridiculous; anyone who can consistently laugh at himself does not".
 -Vaclav Havel 
"Life is full of wonder, Love is never wrong."   Melissa Ethridge

I ship it harder than Mrs. Hudson.
    
 
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July 12, 2016 9:41 pm  #17


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Well obviously, but it's no guarantee of a superior relationship.


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July 12, 2016 11:11 pm  #18


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Hence, it's not necessary, though still an option.

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July 13, 2016 1:20 am  #19


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Some people are happier being married some are by not... I mainly support people doing what makes them happy.

I think I'd like to marry... but that's the deprived romanticist in me. Growing up with a single mum and all that... and I mainly see a wedding as a celebration if love...


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July 13, 2016 5:07 am  #20


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Together with the same man since 1994, married since 2002.

Marrying was always important for me, but right now I feel like buying a house and moving away together is a much big get step than getting that marriage licence. :-)


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