Whisky wrote:

I learned listening to my "Johns" and I get better at ignoring my "Donovans".

That sounds quite wonderful, Whisky.
 

SolarSystem wrote:

Whisky wrote:

I learned listening to my "Johns" and I get better at ignoring my "Donovans".

That sounds quite wonderful, Whisky.
 

Oh yes, it really does!

And I like to join you, Schmiezi. Never thought to get to know so many nice people.


 

This Is The Phantom Lady wrote:

It's okay to be smart, it's something to strive for in fact!

*hug*

I'm very sorry to hear about your school experiences. I'm glad you have come to terms with it now you're grown up.

I was rather similar from the outset, you know, a bookworm like you, not a big socialiser, rather plain-looking kid with big glasses - but I was lucky to grow up in an all-bookworm family, with my parents and older brothers constantly reassuring me that it was OK to be brainy rather than sexy, and I was lucky to find a little group of like-minded kids at school. So while I never won any popularity contest at school I wasn't lonely and I also never felt the need to downplay the bookwormy-ness. I'm really sorry to hear that you felt you had to.

But now, looking back at my school years and our little troupe of little Sherlocks, we were terribly arrogant, terribly stuck up - a B+ grade was a failure for us, and everyone in class except us was a complete moron, far below our dignity. We were all walking around in metaphorical Belstaff coats woven of A grades and academic awards.

I'm glad that Sherlock showed me how immature that was really. It helped me survive my school years, but it really didn't make me a nice person.

It's perfectly OK to be brainy and to value that over looks and popularity, but it's not in fact OK to use it to make yourself feel better at other (less brainy) people's expense. It's OK to make your cleverness into a coat of armour for your own protection but it's not OK to make it into a weapon against less brainy but otherwise innocent people.

Only I wasn't aware of that for a long time. When I watch Sherlock now I see much of my younger self in him but I can't help being very, very glad that I got over that sort of arrogance by the time I was about 23 (late enough!).

Strange, isn't it, how the same show and the same character can mean so much to either of us, but in totally different (almost opposed) ways?!
 

Last edited by La Jolie (August 27, 2014 9:46 am)

My best friend has always been heavily involved in fandoms -- analysing shows on forums, going to conventions, writing and reading fic, etc. It's something about her that I didn't understand beyond understanding that it's a way for her to relax. My obsession with Sherlock and Benedict has given me a glimpse into that part of her life that doesn't include me. In a way, it's brought us even closer together.

Another thing that I've gained through discussions on this forum is a deeper appreciation for the show and other points of views and interpretations. The show feels richer to me now that I have so many other perspectives of it.

Mary

Tonnaree, you would be so welcome. Would love to know who sticks behind those pointy and sharp but never too long posts which make me just burst out often enough

Last edited by mrshouse (August 27, 2014 3:48 pm)

Oh, yes, it has changed my life. If someone had told me three years ago that I would spend hours on a forum instead of working, become a mod, improve my English, and meet so many nice people from near and far who became friends I would have called you mad. But there I am. And the funny thing is that I cannot even remember exactly how I found the board.

"I came, I saw, I was conquered." (Julius Cesar, not quite) 

mrshouse wrote:

Tonnaree, you would be so welcome. Would love to know who sticks behind those pointy and sharp but never too long posts which make me just burst out often enough

 
*giggle*

Are you on Facebook Mrshouse?  If so feel free to visit me there. 

www.facebook.com/tonnaree

PS.  I love the internet.
 

Last edited by tonnaree (August 27, 2014 5:05 pm)

Sherlock has changed my life in so many ways.. I can honestly say I owe him (and the whole production team) so much.

I was coming from quite a hard place when I started watching the series this year. I haven´t been to Afghanistan , but I still felt like a veteran, having survived a very traumatic birth that nearly resulted in my death and some serious health problem I had to cope with afterwards, sleepless nights and hectic days all alone with two babies/toddlers.. I had no energy left, no interests in anything and was letting things slide big time. And just like John I was totally swept away by Sherlock´s energy and pulled into his world. It was just the spark I needed to get back on my feet and get my sh** together again. Stealing John´s words I can say he completely turned my life around. I lost so much weight, I got in shape again by completely changing my diet and working out (while listening to Sherlock soundtracks ^^), I improved my English in the most pleasant way imaginable (thanks to everyone in this wonderful forum!), took up my other language studies again and slowly started to feel comfortable in my own skin (and mind-bungalow) again. I had a little relapse when S3 had such a different and much more negative energy to it, but still.. the overall positive effect Sherlock had and continues to have on my life are overwhelming. And no-one in real life must ever know that it´s mostly because of some silly TV show.. ​

I guess all this is something the creators of the show never dreamed of - people from different continents becoming friends, even visiting each other. Their show helping people through difficult times or change their lives for the better. This is amazing. And I hope they know that this is so much more than just entertainment for many of us.